What is bhava-roga? It is punarapi-jananam punarapi-maranam, punanapi janane jatare gamanam. Taking birth and dying and repeatedly entering the womb of another mother to suffer in this material world, is called bhava-roga. So, the glories of Krsna are the topmost medicine for these conditioned souls.
Listen to the pastimes of Krsna from such Mahapurususas who don’t have any trsna, or desire for this material world. The hari-katha they speak is the best medicine for curing this disease of material existence. This medicine is unfailing. Who will not listen to the hari-katha spoken from such personalities?
Those, who have a desire for samsara should listen. Those, who have developed detachment to samsara should also listen. Those, who have developed pure devotion at the lotus feet of Krsna will also listen. The liberated personalities will also listen.
Even those who have attained Goloka Vrndavana listen to the pastimes of Krsna. But, who doesn’t listen? Those who are atma-ghati don’t listen. Atma-ghati means one who kills himself.
Srila Bhaktivedanta Narayana Goswami Maharaja
Since Srimad-Bhagavatam has not openly declared the manjari mood, we also should not do so. We are not greater than Sri Vyasadeva, Srila Sukadeva Gosvami, Srila Rupa Gosvami or Sri Caitanya Mahaprabhu. We should keep that mood in our hearts, as a wife who has a paramour does not give her husband any such indication. In India it is done like this, but not in the West. Westerners can declare more than ten husbands at a time, but in India, to declare another beloved would create a very big problem.
I request that if you think you have greed for the mood of a manjari, keep it in your heart so that nobody can have a scent of it. Otherwise, in a day or two you may commit offenses and your mood will disappear forever. This is not a subject for preaching everywhere in the marketplace. Keep it inside, like camphor. If camphor burns at an open doorway it evaporates, whereas if it is kept hidden behind closed doors, its fragrance will increase. It is very good if one has actual greed. I appreciate this, and I offer my heartfelt blessings to you if you have this. But keep it in your heart and don’t disturb others, otherwise they will end up collecting so many lady friends and engage in so-called parakiya mood, meaning illicit and immoral connection with the opposite sex.
My request is this: do not be mad to be a manjari. First try to follow Sri Upadesamrta, and then the other writings of Srila Rupa Gosvami. You can then gradually reach the top of the bhakti tree. Don’t try to jump at once to the top of the tree, otherwise you may fall down, break your arms and legs, and crack your head. So be careful.
Sri Srimad Bhaktivedanta Narayana Gosvami Maharaja (Volgograd, Russia: September 13, 2004)